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Thursday, January 26, 2012

Cougar Training...

Well...I tried.  I really did try.  After about a day or two of playing phone tag, I was finally able to sit and have a conversation with EC (Eye Candy from last week's post).  Or at least I tried to.  I think we may have talked for about 10 minutes before the first interruption came.  Now, I didn't think too much of it because sometimes people call and you have to click over...I get it.   But when he returned, the interruptions started coming a lot more frequently.  It was like he clicked over every 5 minutes!  Eventually, he just said that he would just call me back.  This went on everyday for the past week.  He called me, like clockwork, every day when he got off and within 20 minutes of the conversation he told me he would call me back.  I'm sorry but I just can't deal with that...especially when the person doesn't see anything wrong with it.

You that first 10 minutes of the conversation I learned that this young man (yes...YOUNG) was only 22!  W.T.H?  I'm way too young to be in "cougar training"!  Then, he felt it necessary to share his stories of a very "challenging" (idk what to call being pimped by an older lady...I can't make this stuff up, even if I tried) upbringing.  His mind was on his money...literally.  I believe that he told me that when he's in a relationship he wouldn't be intimate with another woman but he would give her his time if she paid him for it.  Umm...excuse me?  Are you being serious?  Am I being punk'd? 

Needless to say there were a number of things that troubled me about this guy.  Finally, I had to just tell him straight up that I didn't have time for the constant phone tag and foolishness.  Aside from the scary stories, I could see some intelligence, a love of God (I know...hard to believe, right?  But who am I to judge?), and some potential...if he was ready.  But, he's not and I don't have time for a "project".  He still has time to get his life together and hopefully he does it sooner than later.

Bright Side:  I told you that at least I would have a story to tell!  But I'm glad that I decided to let it go up front than let it keep going and having a headache about it later.  I don't know what to say...I kinda felt bad because I thought that I might be able to be the light in a room full of darkness but I also felt like you can't help anyone who doesn't want to be helped.  During our brief conversations, I was able to put some things on his mind but not enough to make him see that as easy as money comes, it goes even faster with one inaccurate step.  I just had to say a prayer and let it go...


  1. No....but you can pray for him.

  2. Hey Reisha,
    sorry about your experience...I try to read your blog as often as i can...first saw u on black n keish's show...wassup with them?...anyway thanx for the interesting stories...I was hoping things would turn out better for u..better luck next time ok?