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Monday, November 22, 2010

Can We Get It Together?

I know, I've been out of commission for a little bit, but I've had events for work, wrapping up my first semester of grad school, then trying to squeeze a little fun.  But I'm back...with a story (or two) to tell. 

So last week while I was on facebook working, I got a fb chat message from my cousin.  I was thinking that she was going to tell me something crazy that my little brother said, but NO! She tells me that this grown tail man came by her desk and asked her to give him my number. Pause...really?  Do grown men really go up to someone's cousin and demand for someone else's number?  So she was sending me this message to ask me if I would mind. Uhh...yes!  This man has talked to me a number of times at work AND has seen me when I've attended various city events with his department.  Why is he asking for my number through my cousin and not asking me directly?  I told her not to give him anything, I didn't want to get his number, and don't even let him know that she talked to me.  I told her to just tell him that he should approach me the next time he sees me. Then I asked (I just had to know) how old he was.  She said 35 (yes THREE-FIVE)!  Why is a 35 year old man asking someone to "hook them up"?  I can understand seeing someone that you're interested in, finding out that you have a mutual contact, and asking them a little background info or even an introduction...but not asking for their number.  What if you approach them and their breathe stinks, or they can't complete a sentence?  You could've avoided this entire situation if you would have talked to them before you got their number.  Or even more...what about the person who's number their asking for (in this case me), what about if I don't want you to have my number?  Once you have it, you have it (until I change it) So I guess my thoughts on the subject just don't matter?

If that wasn't enough...this morning I was on facebook working and I get a FB chat message from one of the city's department directors thanking me for attending their employee recognition dinner on Friday night.  Then he says that some of the men were coming up to him asking him who I was.  He told them to just approach me but they didn't want to.  I don't think it's asking too much for a man who has enough self-confidence to approach me...the worst that could happen is that I say no.  Heck...I might just say yes.  But they will never know until they come up and ask.  Anyone who has met me (or who knows me) will tell you that I'm just about the friendliest person that you'll ever meet.  9 times outta 10 I have a smile on my face and I will talk to just about anyone about anything. (seriously, I saw one of the FIFA games and started talking to everyone about it like I had been watching every game) So even if they didn't want to go on Mr. (blank)'s word that I was nice, they could've gone off of the inviting smile on my face. 

I can say with all honesty, that I have been doing some of the approaching lately (even though those end up as duds) and it's not all that bad.  If they say no (or seem uninterested) my world keeps's not going to fall off it's axis.  But yea...I just thought it was too crazy that 30+ year old men are trying to get the phone number of someone that they've never expressed interest to through a third party...that's just not what's hot.  But I don't know...maybe that's what's in and maybe that's why I'm still single.

Bright Side: Umm...(thinking really hard) I had a fabulous time teaching my boss's husband how to Wobble (he's an older, Jewish gentleman and he was getting it!  He had everyone on the dance floor SPEECHLESS...he even asked me to get him the song so that he could practice it for exercise. Lol)

P.S. Remind me to tell you about the reason why I don't give second chances...this ninja right here did the fool...but I have to get back to trying to get outta work early work. ;)

Thursday, November 4, 2010

How soon is too soon?

I just have to get these thoughts out so forgive the randomness:

So I've been thinking a lot about soon is too soon to be "exclusive" with someone?  Although I made a pact (with you, my friends, and myself) to start to "Let Go & Let Flow" I'm still a VERY catious person who was always taught that poor preparation leads to poor performance...but can you apply that theory to dating and relationships?  When is it a good time to throw caution to the wind and go with the flow and when do you stop and start looking before you leap?  Is it something that my intuition will tell me is right or do I silence "Vetta" and stick with my nicely put together Joan (from Girlfriends) relationship plan?  What if I risk meeting the man who I'm supposed to be with because I'm in an exclusive dating relationship with someone else (that I didn't take the "normal" amount of time to get to know)?  But what if he turns out to be IT?  Stop...Breathe...Yep...I'm overthinking this again.  One of favorite quotes is from Hillary Stanton Zunin:
"The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief -
But the pain of grief
Is only a shadow
When compared with the pain
Of never risking love"

I guess I should follow this advice and just see what happens...