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Tuesday, April 5, 2011


I told you that I was going to do it, and I am determined to keep my word. On Sunday, a friend of mine and I were talking about guys and how they have become very lazy. I have 2 examples, one that I'll share now and another that I'll share tomorrow...

I was telling her about this guy that I met at a work event last year. I work in non-profit, so we get invited to parties for corporate sponsors all of the time. Well at this particular party, I didn't know anyone other than the lady who invited me (and I didn't know her very well). True to my social butterfly form, I found a lady and her husband and I ended up talking to them majority of the night. Well, the husband's co-worker decided to come over and sit with us. He started up a conversation with me and I entertained him…he was handsome, a little older (35ish), and could hold a decent conversation. We exchanged business cards, but he never called...and I didn't call him. A couple of weeks later, I saw him at another event for this company and he walked me to my car and he asked me for my cell. We conversed a couple of times after that, and one day after work we hung out and watched a Rocket's game. Now, every time that I would call him he would say that he was going to call me back, but didn't. So I just stopped calling. One February night, he sent me a random text about it being really cold outside... (keep in mind that I hadn't seen/talked to him since we hung out in December)

Him: Man, it got really cold outside. I need a warm bed.
Me: Yea, it did. You don't leave your heater on?
Him: I didn't realize that it was going to be this cold tonight.
Me: Well I guess you should start checking the weather before you leave home.
Him: I's going to be so cold when I get home
Me: Yea...well get those blankets ready!
Him: no response

I was halfway offended that he expected me to invite him to my house. Just because we have had a handful of conversations and we've hung out once does not mean that I know you and that you should be expecting an invitation to cuddle. My friend and I were just talking about how this must have worked for him before for him to come at me like this.

I explained that I'm at the point where I don't have time for the "you need to chase me" game...either you're interested or you're not. If you are, then you need to show it, but if you want me to chase you, then you need to #ejectyourself from my dating life. It's JUST.THAT.SIMPLE.

I didn't see or hear from him again until this weekend when he came to volunteer at one of our work events. He went on & on about how we need to hang out and how we should meet up when I come back from Brazil to show him my person. Yea...that's not going to work for me. I need consistency and that's not something that you're capable of, sir.

Bright Side: It feels so good to be able to know and be able to communicate to "potentials" what I want and what I'm not going to stand for. I don't think consistency and both parties showing their interest are unreasonable expectations to have. I think that I've finally found my voice!

1 comment:

  1. loved this post! I think I found mine too! I went off on an ex like never before! I want and deserve better :)