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Friday, September 3, 2010

Crushing: The Neighbor

Happy Friday (and Labor Day weekend)!  You don't know how much I've been waiting on this break!

If you've been reading my posts for a while, then you know that I've mentioned my neighbor who I thought was really, really cute then I changed my mind and was like ehh...he's ok.  Well!  I don't know what happened but a couple of weeks ago I saw him in the hallway and I thought that I should introduce myself.  Maybe a week after that I ended up sitting in his kitchen talking and we had a really good conversation.  I found out that we went to the same college (but he's 36 so he was there about 10 years before I even thought about that school), he has a 5 year old son, his occupation, his education, the basics and a little more. The next night he sends me a text and asks me to come help him install a new toilet seat cover.  Now I was thinking "Umm...that's random, even for me" but I enjoyed the conversation the night before so I went.  It was a little awkward at first because who asks someone to help them install a new toilet seat, how is this a 2 person job? lol but I just stood back and enjoyed the view (Y'all...he has really, really nice arms).  In the end, the toilet seat wasn't even long enough so I went back home.  The next night, he had the bright idea to play UNO.  I proceeded to whoop him both at his apt and in mine...of course, he wants a rematch.  After spending time talking and interacting with him, I have developed a crush on my neighbor. I think the feeling is mutual but I don't know.  The first couple of weeks after we started hanging out, he text me everyday for almost 2 weeks straight.  Now, me being the anaytical thinker that I am...I noticed that the texts came at different times of day with just random "How are you?" messages.  Now with all of this communication and interaction, he has yet to ask me out.  So I'm a little confused as to what's really going on?

Last weekend he told me that he was going out of town and he sent out a mass text message about an event that was going on Downtown and he included that a line that said "this would be a good date night if you're looking to pur a smile on someone's face..."  I responded with a LOL at that line and we got into a conversation about women asking men out.  His view is that women don't ask because we're scared of rejection and that you'll never know unless you ask.  My view is that a man should show his interest by asking the woman out and once his interest is established, then the possibilities would be endless. Now we've chit-chatted off & on since then but it hasn't been anything like our previous interaction so I'm a little confused on his position (level of interest) so I asked my fav blogger & my brother their opinion.  My brother seems to think that he is interested and my fav feels that I've been put in the "friend zone"...again.  That is NOT where I'm trying to be!  She agreed that I don't need to ask him out but that a 37 year old man with a child knows what he wants.  She also told me that to move out of "the zone" I could hang in there, ask him out, or move around...  So that's where I am now...trying to figure out what I want to do without making myself look "thirsty." (My lease is not up till next year so I wouldn't want to turn my pleasant hallway experience into an awkward one...I'm no good at awkward)

Your thoughts and opinions? 

Bright Side: Since he lives in the gym, he gave me a workout/meal plan to he's been checking up on me with that.  I told him to throw away my Blue Bell Cookies & Cream ice cream so that I wouldn't be tempted.  He also still wants a rematch at Uno so if nothing else comes of it, I'll still have reasons to get a peek at his arms. Lol  I know...I'm horrible!


  1. Ok so invite him over for the rematch. Maybe he doesn't know what "zone" he want to put you in yet?! There you go thinking about it to much!! JUST HAVE FUN

  2. @Miss La: Funny thing...he just called and asked me about a vacuum. Lol We'll see what happens...

  3. It's time for to put on your "seductress" hat on. You need to be super flirty with mistery. Have him wanting more. Regardless his age men think of sex.... so you need to make him sexually curious, and from there you will have his full attention on you......

    It sounds ......"hoe-ish" but its always a winner.

  4. Most folk don't activelly engage conversations, unless you have some intrest...although texting does give a false sence of hope... I mean, one can copy & paste the same message to several people & they all think it's a genuine "check up", sooooo... You won't know with out the real interaction & before you throw anything away, give it to me, the garbage disposal!!