Who Should You Allow To Pursue You?

Greetings!  Okay so I had a very interesting topic to discuss today.  I'll give you a little bit of the background first.  My job is very, very lax.  My boss talks to me about different topics all of the time and one of them happens to be relationships.  I've said this before, but her husband has even tried (and is still trying) to hook me up.  I don't mind...it could turn out to be a love connection, a great blog post, or both!  But anyway, she and I have very different views on dating and the caliber of men that I should allow to pursue me.

I think we all have our idea of the "Ideal Man" that we want to be with.  Personally, I would prefer someone God-fearing, loving, taller than me, educated, intelligent (because being intelligent and educated are two very different things), attractive, protective (not overbearing), and just a genuinely good person.  I don't think that these things are too much to ask, but I can compromise on some of them too. 

I was working an event on Saturday and I saw some really nice "eye candy"(EC).  Normally at these events, all I see are old men and a bunch of kids but this EC was an unfamiliar face.  I inquired, one thing led to another, and we exchanged numbers.  Now, EC is a worker...he works with his hands and out in the sun and, 9 times out of 10, he doesn't have any education outside of the normal K-12.  For me, this isn't a deal breaker.  We haven't had the opportunity to converse but from the source that started the ball rolling, he is intelligent and has a good head on his shoulders.  I feel like I could be passing up the person who could really make me happy just because he doesn't fit my idea of an ideal match for me.  (Not saying that he will be the "end all, be all", but you never know what might happen.  He could be someone who treats me better than anyone with 4,5,6 degrees would ever treat me or he could be just as bad as them...everyone is different and you never know until you find out.) 

Now, my boss feels otherwise.  She feels like if you went through all of that hard work to attain your degrees that you should find someone who has done the same.  But she isn't the person who will be in the relationship.  She sees what's on the outside and I prefer to see what's on the inside.  Are you a hard worker?  How do you treat your mother?  As long as he isn't involved in any illegal activities or running around like a whore monger, why not see what he's talking about?  This should be a pretty interesting experience!  It kinda reminds me of the Monty/Julia relationship in "Daddy's Little Girls".

Bright Side:  This is the good part of being single...being able to visit the buffet and put whatever you want on your tray to find out if you like it or not.  We'll see what happens and you'll be the first to know!

Dealbreaker?

This past Saturday I had the opportunity to hang out with a more seasoned group of ladies while watching Bearkat and Texans football.  I had so much fun listening to stories of sponsorship and foolishness.  It was somewhat interesting (and a little scary) to know that foolishness knows no age.  Seriously, is this what I have to look forward to in the coming years?!  One of the stories that was brought to the table for discussion was one that I have yet to encounter.  Let me share (and yes, I did get permission)...

This lovely, 40+ lady (Bonita) met a guy (Reggie) out and about.  One day when they were conversing, they decide to meet up.  Now...this was an impromptu date.  When they finally met at Subway, they ordered and proceeded to pay.  The male (also 40+) pulls out a buy one, get one free foot long coupon.  Now Bonita is a little taken aback by Reggie's decision to use a coupon on one of their first outings.  And on top of all of that, Bonita ordered a 6 inch sandwich instead of a footlong so Reggie had to order another footlong on his own (which he said that he would eat for lunch on another day).  Really?  I understand the concept of frugality, but can we at least wait until date 5,6, or 7...when we are really comfortable with each other? 

So the discussion at the table was if you felt like this was acceptable behavior or not.  Personally, I think that he should've waited to use the coupon with his boys or for lunch one day, especially since he still ended up keeping the other sandwich for another day anyway.  But maybe that's just me (and the other ladies at the table).

Bright Side:  Maybe this means that he is awesome at saving and building for the future?  idk...that's probably a stretch but it's all that I got!

"Out of the Mouths of Babes..."

Please put away all guns and knives!  I know that it's been a few weeks, but this last semester of grad school and life has been kicking my buns!  But, I'm happy to report that I have submitted the last of my assignments (as of 1:36 am), and I can now sit back and wait for DECEMBER 10th!!! GRADUATION DAY!!!

So this morning I was just hanging out on Facebook (since I have nothing else better to do), and I came across this YouTube link.  I have to say that this is one of the smartest 5 year olds...EVER!!!  She has grasped (in her 5 short years of life) what some of us haven't grasped at 20, 30, 40, or even 50+!  I'm kinda curious to see if her views change at all as she gets older.