Cougar Training...

Well...I tried.  I really did try.  After about a day or two of playing phone tag, I was finally able to sit and have a conversation with EC (Eye Candy from last week's post).  Or at least I tried to.  I think we may have talked for about 10 minutes before the first interruption came.  Now, I didn't think too much of it because sometimes people call and you have to click over...I get it.   But when he returned, the interruptions started coming a lot more frequently.  It was like he clicked over every 5 minutes!  Eventually, he just said that he would just call me back.  This went on everyday for the past week.  He called me, like clockwork, every day when he got off and within 20 minutes of the conversation he told me he would call me back.  I'm sorry but I just can't deal with that...especially when the person doesn't see anything wrong with it.

You see...in that first 10 minutes of the conversation I learned that this young man (yes...YOUNG) was only 22!  W.T.H?  I'm way too young to be in "cougar training"!  Then, he felt it necessary to share his stories of a very "challenging" (idk what to call being pimped by an older lady...I can't make this stuff up, even if I tried) upbringing.  His mind was on his money...literally.  I believe that he told me that when he's in a relationship he wouldn't be intimate with another woman but he would give her his time if she paid him for it.  Umm...excuse me?  Are you being serious?  Am I being punk'd? 

Needless to say there were a number of things that troubled me about this guy.  Finally, I had to just tell him straight up that I didn't have time for the constant phone tag and foolishness.  Aside from the scary stories, I could see some intelligence, a love of God (I know...hard to believe, right?  But who am I to judge?), and some potential...if he was ready.  But, he's not and I don't have time for a "project".  He still has time to get his life together and hopefully he does it sooner than later.

Bright Side:  I told you that at least I would have a story to tell!  But I'm glad that I decided to let it go up front than let it keep going and having a headache about it later.  I don't know what to say...I kinda felt bad because I thought that I might be able to be the light in a room full of darkness but I also felt like you can't help anyone who doesn't want to be helped.  During our brief conversations, I was able to put some things on his mind but not enough to make him see that as easy as money comes, it goes even faster with one inaccurate step.  I just had to say a prayer and let it go...

Who Should You Allow To Pursue You?

Greetings!  Okay so I had a very interesting topic to discuss today.  I'll give you a little bit of the background first.  My job is very, very lax.  My boss talks to me about different topics all of the time and one of them happens to be relationships.  I've said this before, but her husband has even tried (and is still trying) to hook me up.  I don't mind...it could turn out to be a love connection, a great blog post, or both!  But anyway, she and I have very different views on dating and the caliber of men that I should allow to pursue me.

I think we all have our idea of the "Ideal Man" that we want to be with.  Personally, I would prefer someone God-fearing, loving, taller than me, educated, intelligent (because being intelligent and educated are two very different things), attractive, protective (not overbearing), and just a genuinely good person.  I don't think that these things are too much to ask, but I can compromise on some of them too. 

I was working an event on Saturday and I saw some really nice "eye candy"(EC).  Normally at these events, all I see are old men and a bunch of kids but this EC was an unfamiliar face.  I inquired, one thing led to another, and we exchanged numbers.  Now, EC is a worker...he works with his hands and out in the sun and, 9 times out of 10, he doesn't have any education outside of the normal K-12.  For me, this isn't a deal breaker.  We haven't had the opportunity to converse but from the source that started the ball rolling, he is intelligent and has a good head on his shoulders.  I feel like I could be passing up the person who could really make me happy just because he doesn't fit my idea of an ideal match for me.  (Not saying that he will be the "end all, be all", but you never know what might happen.  He could be someone who treats me better than anyone with 4,5,6 degrees would ever treat me or he could be just as bad as them...everyone is different and you never know until you find out.) 

Now, my boss feels otherwise.  She feels like if you went through all of that hard work to attain your degrees that you should find someone who has done the same.  But she isn't the person who will be in the relationship.  She sees what's on the outside and I prefer to see what's on the inside.  Are you a hard worker?  How do you treat your mother?  As long as he isn't involved in any illegal activities or running around like a whore monger, why not see what he's talking about?  This should be a pretty interesting experience!  It kinda reminds me of the Monty/Julia relationship in "Daddy's Little Girls".

Bright Side:  This is the good part of being single...being able to visit the buffet and put whatever you want on your tray to find out if you like it or not.  We'll see what happens and you'll be the first to know!

Dealbreaker?

This past Saturday I had the opportunity to hang out with a more seasoned group of ladies while watching Bearkat and Texans football.  I had so much fun listening to stories of sponsorship and foolishness.  It was somewhat interesting (and a little scary) to know that foolishness knows no age.  Seriously, is this what I have to look forward to in the coming years?!  One of the stories that was brought to the table for discussion was one that I have yet to encounter.  Let me share (and yes, I did get permission)...

This lovely, 40+ lady (Bonita) met a guy (Reggie) out and about.  One day when they were conversing, they decide to meet up.  Now...this was an impromptu date.  When they finally met at Subway, they ordered and proceeded to pay.  The male (also 40+) pulls out a buy one, get one free foot long coupon.  Now Bonita is a little taken aback by Reggie's decision to use a coupon on one of their first outings.  And on top of all of that, Bonita ordered a 6 inch sandwich instead of a footlong so Reggie had to order another footlong on his own (which he said that he would eat for lunch on another day).  Really?  I understand the concept of frugality, but can we at least wait until date 5,6, or 7...when we are really comfortable with each other? 

So the discussion at the table was if you felt like this was acceptable behavior or not.  Personally, I think that he should've waited to use the coupon with his boys or for lunch one day, especially since he still ended up keeping the other sandwich for another day anyway.  But maybe that's just me (and the other ladies at the table).

Bright Side:  Maybe this means that he is awesome at saving and building for the future?  idk...that's probably a stretch but it's all that I got!

New Year, New Boys (Hopefully)!

What up everybody?  I hope that you all had as awesome of a holiday season as I did.  I was off from work for almost 2 weeks so needless to say, it was a struggle to wake up this morning.  I did get to bring in the new year with my family at church, then with 2 really good friends so I have no complaints!  2011 wasn't a bad year for me, but I hope that bringing in the new year with fun and family is a sign that 2012 will be even better than 2011. 

I'm hoping that 2012 is filled with relaxation, love, life,   prosperity, travel, and happiness (and maybe a tad bit of timeliness.  I almost made it to work on time today...dang train! lol) .  I've never been one for setting specific new year's lies resolutions because it's all about continued growth and (I feel) everything else will fall into place.  I can say that I do plan on being a little more adventurous in my dating life.  For example, when I came into work today my boss told me that her husband met a guy at a diner that she thinks would be a good fit for me.  My only response was to tell her to go for it!  Let's just say that 2012 is already starting off on an interesting note. 

Let's see what the rest of the year has in store for us...

        Happy 2012!