Feeling Some Kinda Way Today?

In honor of the life and talent of Ms. Whitney Houston, I picked two videos that (I feel) are the soundtrack of the day for both the attached and unattached: "The Greatest Love of All" and "Million Dollar Bill".  We loved the way Ms. Houston's music made us feel and we will be forever grateful for the talent that God allowed us to witness.  She will be forever missed.

I woke up this morning and I felt a little different.  Not because I'm in a somber state because I don't have a significant other, but because I'm not affected by the fact that I don't have a significant other.  I'm not sure if I've shared this but, in times past, I used to be a really angry person on Valentine's Day.  I would wear all black and say "Bah Humbug" when greeted with a "Happy Valentine's Day!".  I'm guessing that after 6 years of not having a Valentine, I've learned how to handle it.  This year, I didn't feel any of the pressure to entertain foolishness just to have someone tell me Happy Valentine's Day...I have plenty of friends on Facebook and followers on Twitter who did just that (and I didn't have to buy them anything).  Instead, I chose to visit two of my favorite retailers and send myself a little a lot of  somethin', somethin's.  Why can't I be we be our own Valentine?  Aren't we supposed to love ourselves more anyway?  I think so!  If you don't love yourself then how can someone else love you? 

Usually I spend this day out with my little brother, but this year I'll be going to the gym with my ls (she's whipping me into shape for Mexico in November) and then I'll be taking myself out...do some more reflection on my growth from last year to this year and just enjoy being able to see another day.  Today shouldn't be about the love that you feel that you don't have, but more about the love that you do.  Plus, if I was in a relationship, I'm not going to lie and say that I wouldn't want my significant other to recognize today (I'm still a human and most importantly, an emotional female! lol), but I would want him to show me how much he loves me everyday.  Why can't Valentine's Day be 365 days...isn't it more about the action of love and not just the gift? But what do I know...I haven't had a significant other as a Valentine in 7 years. Lol

Bright Side:  Enjoy this day with those that you love and who love you in return.  It doesn't have to be a romantic love, but it could be a celebration of love with your friends and family.  It's only one day and it will be over in less than 24 hours!
   

Cougar Training...

Well...I tried.  I really did try.  After about a day or two of playing phone tag, I was finally able to sit and have a conversation with EC (Eye Candy from last week's post).  Or at least I tried to.  I think we may have talked for about 10 minutes before the first interruption came.  Now, I didn't think too much of it because sometimes people call and you have to click over...I get it.   But when he returned, the interruptions started coming a lot more frequently.  It was like he clicked over every 5 minutes!  Eventually, he just said that he would just call me back.  This went on everyday for the past week.  He called me, like clockwork, every day when he got off and within 20 minutes of the conversation he told me he would call me back.  I'm sorry but I just can't deal with that...especially when the person doesn't see anything wrong with it.

You see...in that first 10 minutes of the conversation I learned that this young man (yes...YOUNG) was only 22!  W.T.H?  I'm way too young to be in "cougar training"!  Then, he felt it necessary to share his stories of a very "challenging" (idk what to call being pimped by an older lady...I can't make this stuff up, even if I tried) upbringing.  His mind was on his money...literally.  I believe that he told me that when he's in a relationship he wouldn't be intimate with another woman but he would give her his time if she paid him for it.  Umm...excuse me?  Are you being serious?  Am I being punk'd? 

Needless to say there were a number of things that troubled me about this guy.  Finally, I had to just tell him straight up that I didn't have time for the constant phone tag and foolishness.  Aside from the scary stories, I could see some intelligence, a love of God (I know...hard to believe, right?  But who am I to judge?), and some potential...if he was ready.  But, he's not and I don't have time for a "project".  He still has time to get his life together and hopefully he does it sooner than later.

Bright Side:  I told you that at least I would have a story to tell!  But I'm glad that I decided to let it go up front than let it keep going and having a headache about it later.  I don't know what to say...I kinda felt bad because I thought that I might be able to be the light in a room full of darkness but I also felt like you can't help anyone who doesn't want to be helped.  During our brief conversations, I was able to put some things on his mind but not enough to make him see that as easy as money comes, it goes even faster with one inaccurate step.  I just had to say a prayer and let it go...

Who Should You Allow To Pursue You?

Greetings!  Okay so I had a very interesting topic to discuss today.  I'll give you a little bit of the background first.  My job is very, very lax.  My boss talks to me about different topics all of the time and one of them happens to be relationships.  I've said this before, but her husband has even tried (and is still trying) to hook me up.  I don't mind...it could turn out to be a love connection, a great blog post, or both!  But anyway, she and I have very different views on dating and the caliber of men that I should allow to pursue me.

I think we all have our idea of the "Ideal Man" that we want to be with.  Personally, I would prefer someone God-fearing, loving, taller than me, educated, intelligent (because being intelligent and educated are two very different things), attractive, protective (not overbearing), and just a genuinely good person.  I don't think that these things are too much to ask, but I can compromise on some of them too. 

I was working an event on Saturday and I saw some really nice "eye candy"(EC).  Normally at these events, all I see are old men and a bunch of kids but this EC was an unfamiliar face.  I inquired, one thing led to another, and we exchanged numbers.  Now, EC is a worker...he works with his hands and out in the sun and, 9 times out of 10, he doesn't have any education outside of the normal K-12.  For me, this isn't a deal breaker.  We haven't had the opportunity to converse but from the source that started the ball rolling, he is intelligent and has a good head on his shoulders.  I feel like I could be passing up the person who could really make me happy just because he doesn't fit my idea of an ideal match for me.  (Not saying that he will be the "end all, be all", but you never know what might happen.  He could be someone who treats me better than anyone with 4,5,6 degrees would ever treat me or he could be just as bad as them...everyone is different and you never know until you find out.) 

Now, my boss feels otherwise.  She feels like if you went through all of that hard work to attain your degrees that you should find someone who has done the same.  But she isn't the person who will be in the relationship.  She sees what's on the outside and I prefer to see what's on the inside.  Are you a hard worker?  How do you treat your mother?  As long as he isn't involved in any illegal activities or running around like a whore monger, why not see what he's talking about?  This should be a pretty interesting experience!  It kinda reminds me of the Monty/Julia relationship in "Daddy's Little Girls".

Bright Side:  This is the good part of being single...being able to visit the buffet and put whatever you want on your tray to find out if you like it or not.  We'll see what happens and you'll be the first to know!