Just A Little...

Disappointed.  Remember the post before this one?  The one where I was so uber excited about approaching that guy from church?  (Worth The Wait...) Well, I'm sad to report that nothing came out of it.  I mean...I called him that Monday night but he hasn't initiated anything since then.  I sent a couple of follow up texts, but there wasn't anything there that made it seem like he had any interest in taking it further.  The conversation wasn't bad...it was just one of those "getting to know you" conversations.  I'm not ashamed to say that I did break down the conversation (in my head) to see what may have been the dealbreaker for him.  It wasn't like it was a short & sweet convo, we were on the phone for over a hr and I'm the one who initiated the goodbye. And I don't feel like just because I approached him that I gave up all rights to be "courted".  I just started the ball rolling, it's his job to keep it in motion, right?  In the conversationhe gave me his schedule, play by play, so I knew that he was going to be busy.  But, does that mean that you don't shoot out a text to say "hey", especially when you update your FB?  Or when I sent him a message, he answered it but never said "what about yourself?" or anything.  I'm just sayin...  I think I'll take it as a sign that "he's just not that into me" and I do not chase.  Oh well...on to the next one!

Bright Side: At least now I know what's up.  I kinda dwelled on it for a little bit, but now I'm good.  Maybe he just brought me one person closer to the one who's just as interested in me as I am in them. 

Something (Real) New

I'm not sure how many people that I've shared this with, but I've had a strong desire to date outside of my race for a long time.  When asked, I've only stated that I'm open to it but not that I really want to try it as a new experience.  At one point, I felt like no one would treat me like "my people" would treat me.  Let's just say that I've grown since then.  So much so that I'm supposed to meet up with a guy who's not black this weekend...matter of fact, he's a cowboy!  I'm SO excited!  I was at an engagement party for a great friend's stepdaughter on Saturday and there was this really cute white guy with cowboy boots on and really tight straight-leg cowboy jeans.  He had a hard time trying to get the dance moves that my other friend was trying to tell him, but it was so cute watching him try.  We'll call him Danny.

I'd been admiring Danny from afar when (towards the end of the night) his cousin started teaching me how to two-step.  I was being spinned and twirled around the room that after the song, I had to stop and catch my breathe.  When Danny's cousin and I started talking, Danny walked over and gave me a hug and just talking about dancing.  His cousin walked away, but Danny and I kept talking about dancing when he just invited me out Friday night and asked for my number.  The little cowgirl inside me started jumping up and down because I didn't think this was going to happen.  I don't know what it is, but I barely get approached by any guy, let alone one who happens to be of another race.  Plus, my friends had been trying to get me to go up to him the entire night...turns out that I didn't even have to!

Bright Side:  He and I have been texting all week and he seems to be just as excited as I am.  He said that we are going to learn this country dancing thing together...and I'm ready to learn!  I have my girls ready and we'll see what happens tonight!  So excited!

Worth All Those...

Do you remember the movie, The Wood?  Well (if you remember), do you remember the part where they were all at the dance and "Big Mike" won the contest for who could get the most numbers at the dance, just because he pulled Alicia...because her number was worth "all 10 of those skeezers up in there"?  (Slim's words, not mine) Well...my experience was kinda like that (except with men).  Here's a clip just to refresh your memory (FF to 4:41):

Ok, so if you're a Bright Sider then you know that I accepted the challenge that Paul Brunson extended to the world about dating (see Challenge to catch up) and you also know about the guy from church that I've been wanting to approach for the longest (see Worth The Risk...).  Well I took this challenge as the opportunity to do just that.  Seeing as though I'd only approached 3 guys by July 30th, I decided that "Rick" was my "Alicia".  Let me set the scene...

It's after church one Sunday and I'm in the auditorium talking to my friend Kelly's sister (we were discussing the fact that I should come to Buenos Aires for her wedding in February...can we say that I'm in!  Any excuse to get back to the beaches of South America!).  I thought that Rick had left and that I had gotten out of approaching him for the umpteenth time in 5 or 6 months.  How about no!  So while I'm talking to Shan, I see him walk back into the auditorium and then turn to leave.  Imagine the butterflies in my stomach! I decided that this was the time!  I told Shan that I would be back and I set off.  Well...by the time he got to the door I was right behind him and we greeted each other.  Since it was kinda crowded in the hallway, I asked him to come outside with me so that I could ask him something.  He followed and when we got outside I just blurted it out.  There was no time to find some (or any) "game" that I don't have...I was nervous enough.  I was just like "Would you want to hang out sometime?"  He chuckled a bit (in my head I'm screaming what the heck is so funny?), but then I just asked why the laugh?  He said that he was waiting for the punch line, but he realized that I was serious.  (Uhh...yeah I'm serious!  It's hot, I'm in a suit, and we are in the middle of the church's walkway...brother!).  So anyway he said yes, we can do that, and I told him I would call him so we could set something up later.  There's more to this story...but I'll post it later! :)

Bright Side:  Can we say that I was soooo relieved?  I have been wondering "what if" for the longest and now I did it!  I'm so proud of myself for just going for it (even if it took me 6 months)! 

And the decision is...

Greetings!

After thinking about it (and reading the post over and over), I decided that there really was no need for me and Eric to meet.  I really have no interest in re-living or digging up the past so there was really nothing to talk about.  I guess I didn't want to look bitter by saying no, but I quickly realized that it doesn't matter what it looks like to him.  We're not friends and I'm over putting myself in situations just to appease another person.  There was a reason I let that go...

I sent a simple reply that said "Although I appreciate you reaching out, I don't feel that it's necessary.  Take Care."  Quick, simple, and to the point! 

Let's hope that he gets the point this time!

(I'll talk to y'all later in the week...I need to get back to doing some work!)