So last year or so, my cousin was planning speed dating events. I think that I mentioned this in a previous post, but it was a really nice event. There was a nice ratio of males to females, the ambiance was nice, and the event was well-organized. At this event, there were a few guys that caught my attention. One guy in particular works at an office that works closely with my office. I selected him as one of the guys that I was interested in getting to know, but I never heard anything from him so I figured there was no connection.
A little bit later he sent an email to my work email just shooting the breeze, but nothing came of it. Last week, he called the office to ask a question about a possible event but he also asked how I'd been doing and what not. So, I sent him an email with my information and told him to contact me there if he wanted to check up on me. Well...we went back and forth via email that day, he sent a friend request on FB that day, and the next day we went back forth on FB chat. Now, my thing is that communicating via FB and email are fine, but he has my cell number. I may be thinking too much into this (which I am good for doing), but he can text or call me. For me, email and FB chat are very impersonal because you have to either be at your desk or at a computer to converse. It also makes me think that maybe there's a reason why you can't pick up your phone or have a record of communicating in your phone.
Before you start to get on me about over thinking the situation, I haven't said anything and I'm not going to. I'm just going to sit back and see if he continues this pattern or if it was just that busy of a week that those were his only options at the time. I know in one of our emails, he asked me how I make time for quality time, and my response was that I make time for whatever I feel is important. Again, I don't think it's too much to ask for someone to do the same.
Bright Side: I'm not going to sit and overanalyze this situation. It's still early in the game, and that could have been an off week. I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt, but if he doesn't #EjectHimself, then I will politely do it for him...and not think twice about it!
A little bit later he sent an email to my work email just shooting the breeze, but nothing came of it. Last week, he called the office to ask a question about a possible event but he also asked how I'd been doing and what not. So, I sent him an email with my information and told him to contact me there if he wanted to check up on me. Well...we went back and forth via email that day, he sent a friend request on FB that day, and the next day we went back forth on FB chat. Now, my thing is that communicating via FB and email are fine, but he has my cell number. I may be thinking too much into this (which I am good for doing), but he can text or call me. For me, email and FB chat are very impersonal because you have to either be at your desk or at a computer to converse. It also makes me think that maybe there's a reason why you can't pick up your phone or have a record of communicating in your phone.
Before you start to get on me about over thinking the situation, I haven't said anything and I'm not going to. I'm just going to sit back and see if he continues this pattern or if it was just that busy of a week that those were his only options at the time. I know in one of our emails, he asked me how I make time for quality time, and my response was that I make time for whatever I feel is important. Again, I don't think it's too much to ask for someone to do the same.
Bright Side: I'm not going to sit and overanalyze this situation. It's still early in the game, and that could have been an off week. I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt, but if he doesn't #EjectHimself, then I will politely do it for him...and not think twice about it!
I understand that it is still early in the game but he still needs to pick up the phone. There are to many misunderstandings that can happen via email, fb chat, or text. Keep doing you in the mean time! Love ya
ReplyDeleteI don't think fb chat and email mean he isn't trying to make time for you. Personally, I'm very awkward on the phone. I like the buffer emails and texts provide me from making a fool of myself, and I'm much better in person. Perhaps he feels the same. Feel him out, but don't write him off too quick.
ReplyDeleteI'm not ready to write him off...yet. I'm kinda just sitting back to see if he plans on changing his method of communication. Thanks for the support!
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