This Just Couldn't Wait...

I'm supposed to be working (studying for my GRE that I take on Saturday), but this just couldn't wait.  Remember when I was telling y'all about me purging my phonebook (life) of men who I knew in my heart of hearts weren't what I needed? Well...I was just reminded of why someone was put on that delete list. 

A couple of years ago, I met a guy at a work function.  All odds were against him because he was young and he lived a couple hundred miles away but he was REALLY, REALLY cute.  (Now this is one of those "If I knew then what I know now" moments, but hindsight is 20/20, right?) During our week of hanging out, I found out a lot about him.  He was actually more than just eye candy...he was actually a nice guy.  I soon realized that it was all a front.  Needless to say, after he went home the true colors came out.  He gave me a headache just looking his name in my phonebook.

So now back to the other day when I was deleting numbers out of my phone. I just knew that after I started deleting numbers, something would happen where someone found their way back into my present (yes, i meant present as in present-day and not presence).  I am in love with all things Essence...the magazine, the online site, the online blog, etc, so imagine my surprise when I'm reading one of the articles and I see the youngster's pictures at the bottom of the page.  I immediately stop reading the article and click on the picture and there's a full feature of him as the "Eye Candy of the Week."  (at this point I stop, close out the screen, go back to the page...just had to make sure that I was on the right website) Now I'm one to give credit where credit is due (or subconsciously I just wanted to see if he'd grown up since our last conversation), so I send a message saying just "Congrats, I saw your spread on the website" to which he replied "Ohh thanks babe I appreciate it how r u".  And the rest of the conversation is below...

Me: I'm good. Just working
(the next few messages are just the usual catching up messages until...)

Younster: I wonder how good our love making would have been
Me: (I had to re-read this statement about 3 times before I believed that this dude really asked me this question...and as much as I knew that I needed to just ignore the comment and delete the texting thread, I just HAD to respond) How is something making love when you aren't IN love with them...it's just sex.

Y: Well our sex. I think somewhere in there ur still curious and want 2. right or wrong

Me: I don't think you really understand...see my sex and my time are very important and valuable to me...not everyone gets either one and it's very rare that someone gets both.  You should feel pretty good that you got one of the two.

**more going back & forth with him trying to convice me of how great it would be and me saying no thank you (too long to type & i'm kinda embarassed that I even fell into this conversation) **

Me:I'm done with this convo...we'll just have to agree to disagree. You make my head hurt

Y: I'll give you a massage

M: Sans the happy ending?

Y:Hahaha

M: That's what I thought, I would've come to visit but I don't think you would've been able to handle it

Y: That's fine, I don't have to.  If you trying to keep it platonic just know other females would have probably been dropping by since you're on your miss good good girl

At first I was a little offended but then I realized that I really shouldn't be...I'm the one who entertained the conversation.  I should've just ended it after the catching up part was over...what did I really expect?  Oh well...another day lived and another lesson learned.

Bright Side: Vetta has another win in her column and I now realize that sometimes the past really should stay the past.

It's Just Lunch...and an arm!

So...I have a friend who suggested that I try another way of dating since I'm off online dating sites and the idea of meeting someone while I'm visiting random places is growing bleaker as the days go by.  She suggested that I try an actual dating service (think Bravo's Millionaire Matchmaker minus the millionare) that her friend tried and is having a lot of luck with.  I'll try anything once so I go online to search for the site.  When I get to the site, everything seems cool.  I know that it's probably too good to be true - especially since I don't see a price for this fantabulous service.  Now, Vetta is skeptical of this service but we both decide to fill out the initial survey to see what it's all about.  Survey/Informational complete, now we're just waiting on the call.

I get a call around 3:30 pm from one of the representatives from the company.  I'm still at work so I instruct her to call me back after 5 pm.  When we finally speak on the phone, she goes into the usual spill about the history of the company, what the service is about, what the rules are, etc.  I'm thinking that it's a really convenient service and that I should have tried it out sooner, but Vetta is searching for the catch. Sure enough...it comes out. 

The conversation goes a little like this:

Service Rep (SR): So what do you do?

Me: I work in non-profit. (I go a little more into detail with her but y'all don't want to hear all of that)

SR: Oh that's great, how do you normally meet people?

Me: I usually meet men when I go out to different places, but to be honest I don't really get approached.  It's like I intimidate them.

SR: Yeah, we get that a lot.  Have you ever tried approaching them?

Me: Yes, but then they start to think that I'm supposed to initiate everything and that's just not the way things should be done.

SR: Yes, I understand.  Well  you sound like you would be a great fit for the company and I should be able to find you plenty of matches.  All I need you to do is (this is where I start to get a little uneasy) come in for about a hour so that you can complete a profile (that's not bad), tell me exactly what you are looking for in a mate (still okay), bring your schedule for two weeks so that I can start setting you up on lunch dates and dinner dates (okay...maybe it's not so bad), and bring your credit card or check for the $1,900 (yes you read that correctly) yearly fee (Umm...come again? NINETEEN HUNDRED dollars for you to set me up with someone that I've never seen and don't know?  Great concept buuuuut I'll pass!)

Yeah...needless to say, I will not be signing up for this service.  It still baffles me as to how someone would & could justify charging someone $1,900 to fix them up on blind dates?  Maybe I'm in the wrong profession...

Bright Side: I got a really good laugh today AND I know that there's somewhere I can go if I find my self at the age 40+ with 10 cats and the highlight of my day is when all 10 find their litter boxes and I remember all of their names.

Some Kind Of Way

I LOVE music...not one genre, not one era, not one artist, but ALL of it.  While a lot of people just listen to the beat, I'm the type of person who listens to the words too.  That's the part of the music that I connect with the most.  I love it when I can listen to a song and my imagination runs with it's own interpretation, but when I watch the video or hear the artist explain their thoughts about the song they meant it in a completely different way.  A lot of times I feel like music can express my feelings and my emotions a lot better than I can, so I find that everytime something happens I always have a line from someone's song to describe it perfectly.  With that being said, I have had this song in my head for a couple of days now and I love the chorus.  Hope you enjoy it as much as I do.